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The Mantra of the Mother of a Strong-Willed Child

December 15, 2011

Do you think you have a strong-willed child? This is for those who KNOW they have one! 🙂  I was sure that our first child fell into this category, and then years later , I KNEW that he was just a practice model for me.

This is my mantra, “It is okay to be stubborn, if you are stubborn for the right things.” Repeat with me, “It is okay to be stubborn, if you are stubborn for the right things. It is okay…… ”

I wonder if the apostle Peter’s mother ever felt this way. From our glimpses of him in Scripture, I think he might have fell into this category. We see him as a fiery person who follows his convictions – like when he chopped of the ear of Malchus. Way to make a first impression, Peter.

Peter acts first and then thinks later, like when he walked on water toward Christ. That “I can do anything” attitude, until you see the impossibilities and it is too late to turn back.

He is also an all-or-nothing kind of guy; remember when he told Jesus he didn’t just want Him to wash his feet only, but also his head and hands.

And he wasn’t afraid to tell anyone “No,” not even Jesus Himself. Think about his response to Jesus’s prophecy that he would deny Christ.

These are instances that show us his personality. They are not all evil things; Jesus fixed the ear, Peter was the only one to even attempt and walk on water, Jesus told him that washing the feet was enough for that time, and after he denied Christ he repented and was restored.

Well, back to that mantra…. I want my kids to be stubborn for the right things. When children show that passionate will, take a minute to thank God for making them that way, then buckle up, because it might be a bumpy ride.

The measure of a great parent isn’t someone who can make a child obey. Obedience to parents is a by-product of the real goal. In the bigger picture, you want a child that has a heart to follow God and submit to His will; a child that resists any temptations that leads away from God.

When you recognize that “I WON”T give in” kind of passion in a child, don’t despair. God can use a person like that. Show them an irresistible God who loves them infinitely. Pray for them; pray for God to make Himself real in their life.

Pray for strength and wisdom for yourself, every moment of every day. Be willing to be everything you want your kids to be. If you want them to be passionate about their God, no matter the cost, expect that from yourself. If you want them to rely on God alone, show them what that looks like.

How I wish people were like recipes; if you do X and Y then you get Z as a result. Then I could reveal that secret ingredient, the one act that would guarantee success. It isn’t that easy, but you already know that.

Rely on Our loving Father each step of the path in raising that little blessing. Take heart, Peter’s mom may have felt the same way.

“It is okay to be stubborn, if you are stubborn for the right things.”

“Be ye steadfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.”                                           I Corinthians 15:58

5 Comments leave one →
  1. Josy permalink
    December 15, 2011 10:02 pm

    I love reading all your posts. 🙂

  2. Rosie P:otter permalink
    December 16, 2011 11:22 am

    Good article, Candy!
    As great-grandpartents now, our days of dealing with strong wills in our children are well past. I observe from this end of the spectrum that our sovereign God will accomplish His purposes, even through our children’s strong wills, and our failures.
    The power of the Word of God, and of prayer, a sincere desire to be used by God in the lives of our children for His glory, and our own examples of obedience to God are what He can use to conquer that strong willed child, and use him or her for His own plans – “good works which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.”
    Peace is available through trust in the sovereign power of God.

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